Once, very early in my life, on catching common cold, I asked my physician, “how long it will last ?”.
And he replied, “seven days if you take medicines regularly and one week, if you don’t” !!
Isn’t it true, of some of the other happenings in our life too –
crushes, likes, lusts, lures, infatuations, live-ins, loves ?
They all have their own minds, lives, shelf lives and expiry dates.
They come and go…..on their own…..’un-stop-ably’.
And….. many professional careers, die a premature and unexpected death, due to these charming gatecrashers.
As one poet rightly said :
“मरीज़े इश्क पर लानत……..खुदा की
मर्ज़ बढ़ता गया जिूऊँ जिूऊँ दवा की” !!
( ‘Love-struck patients’ are, ‘God-blessed’ in this unique way
More they are treated, more they advance, on their sick way ) !!
And the funniest part is, we always have this utmost sense of privacy about these so called secrets of our ‘secret / not so secret’ socio-professional Life.
Our Creator has, a unique sense of humour, and He likes to exercise it, at the most undesired occasions and affairs. This definitely being one of those pranks of His, which He, very fondly played…….on all…….of us.
We think our “affair” is a secret but this is one secret, which is believed to be and believed to be a ‘secret’, only by the…..two sides involved. Our Creator has fitted us with a very amazing phenomena called body language.
Late Shri Jagjit Singh ji has sung so beautifully :
“कौन कहता है मोहब्बत की ज़ुबान होती है
ये हक़ीकत तो निगाहों से बयाँ……होती है”
( who says love needs a language and expression
This is conveyed through that gleam in your eyes )
And so, dear professionals watch out, your secret was out the moment it started. Your “own” body language gave you away / let you down.
Therefore, next time, these C & L’s visit you, rest assured that the whole office ( including the boss ) already knows it !!
These C & L’s, are not bad, but confusing / mistaking them, with / for, marriage, could be counter -productive and usually is, counter-productive. C & L’s are undeniably a very important part of marriage but a part can not be and should not be, assumed to be the ‘whole’.
It is like, you ‘like’ the cooking of a good cook and take the cook home.
Your house maid / servant, washes your clothes well and you decide to get married to him / her.
Your first tasty dish, is your first but may not be your last,
your first crush, is your first but may not be your last crush.
your good house maid / servant, could be your first but may not be your last.
Your husband / wife, may be your ‘C & L’ but s /he should also be more – a ‘husband-material’ and a ‘wife-material’.
Your ‘C & L – partner’ is a partner alright and a good partner at that but make sure s / he is a good life-partner as well because as you and me already know a good sleeping – partner, might not ( just might not ) be a good life-partner as well !!
‘Part-time’ and ‘half-husbands / wives’,…..part company……very early !!
MOST DANGEROUS SPECIE :
I have come across some youngsters who are simply dying to be love sick.
And they don’t even mind with whom. They are in love with ‘Love’. As one girl remarked about getting married :
” I don’t know with whom but I am definitely sure that it is going to be a love marriage”.
“Any specific reason for that ?”, I asked.
“Oh yes, to teach my ____father a lesson” !!
Playing with life is more dangerous than playing with fire.
ASTROLOGY can help :
In the affairs of getting married matching horoscopes can help ( but not as the final word ).
In male horoscope Venus and the lord of the seventh & 12th house, should not be combust and should not be under the malefic influence of Saturn + Rahu, should not be debilitated, should not be of zero degree, ….etc.
In female horoscope, apart from the above, Jupiter and the lord of the seventh house & 12th, should not be combust, debilitated, should not be of zero degree. Jupiter should not be retrograde…….etc.
In both male and female horoscopes the ascendant and the seventh lord should not be 6th and 8th from each other.
WHICH IS BETTER – Love or arranged marriage ?
A very irrelevant question.
‘Love and arranged’ are two ways to reach and….success…( or failure ), comes after you reach.
And success, most of the times ( not always ) depends on the “acceptance”.
Happiness depends on acceptance not on the ‘choice’ because, no one is complete and perfect. People are like onions, start peeling back / removing, the layers and be ready for a shock.
The success does not depend upon the onion, it depends upon “My Onion” and mine is forever, can not be replaced. These onions don’t come with a replacement guaranty.
Our father / mother / sister/ brother /son / daughter are not good or bad onions, they are onions. Our acceptance, closed the door on replacement, and……. they started looking “good onions” to us !!
It would be unfair if we talk of Valentine’s Day and valentines and don’t mention / remember Grandpa Adam and Grandma Eve, whom many lovers regard as the First Couple.
Many of the ‘C & Ls’ came into the world after that famous ‘snake in the grass & apple’ incident and that happened many many years after Adam and Eve had already spent many many years in each other’s happy and blissful company.
So, the billion dollar question is, when C & L’s were not even in existence, then “what” was Grandpa Adam looking for, when he went back to God and requested for the creation of Grandma Eve ?.
If you happen to find an answer please share with me and others.
‘religiously’ religion-less and ‘religion-less-ly’ religious !!